Papa Lion must have had some kind of sixth sense or something. He called right after Bear went through the immigration check. He asked Bear to look for Ranto the superboy. Little Lion had also mentioned that Ranto would be there to pick Bear up. Papa Lion also asked Bear to look for his car, which had a red number plate starting with “BM”. Bear did not pay attention to the mentioned numbers as Bear was perplexed by the people who were offering services at the exit. However, the exit was cleared up when two policemen with canes in their hand chased after them.
Bear remembered that Little Lion once told Bear that Papa Lion drives a Terrano. Therefore, it was easy to spot the Terrano with the red number plate and not long after that Bear saw the smiling superboy Ranto. We got in the car and off we went to the Lion’s house.
Bear in Dumai
Papa and Mama Lion was at the porch when Bear arrived. Both of them smiled and Bear felt good. After kissing their hands, Bear joined them for tea with some traditional nutty candies or biscuits. Bear could not recall the name but they were made of ground peanuts and really tasty. At the same time, Little Lion’s uncle, Om (uncle) Dodi came. Apparently, he also went to the jetty but Bear was already picked up by Ranto. So, he just trailed us back to the house.
Bear didn’t think that this would be the right moment to make the proposal and decided to wait for awhile. So, Bear just enjoyed the tea and the nutty stuffs. After sometimes, Bear wanted to give it a shot. For your information, Bear had no idea when the right time would be. As Bear was about to make the move, Papa Lion asked Bear to take a shower and get ready to go out for dinner with Om Dodi since Papa Lion had to attend a house warming party in the neighbourhood. So the first attempt was not successful…
The Lions and Bear performed the Maghrib prayer together that night and right after that Om Dodi was ready to take Bear to dinner. For the first time Bear went out for dinner wearing sandals. Papa Lion would not want Bear to wear shoes since he felt that it would be more convenient to just wear his sandals. Bear felt kind of funny wearing them outside the house. Now, that would be one new thing that Bear needs to get used to when being around Papa Lion.
Anyway, we had a scrumptious dinner at a local hotel, Hotel Patra something something… Bear could not remember that too. Bear’s memory space is mostly filled with Little Lion. We had a whole fish (Bear loves fish), batter fried squids (sotong goreng tepung), some vegetables and rice. We could not finish all of them though.
A little bit about Om Dodi. He was a very cheery guy. He smiled and laughed a lot. In fact, he could do that almost all the time. Bear hopes that Om Dodi would not laugh while sleeping though. Later on, while we drove around for a short night tour of the city of Dumai, Bear found out that he was 2 months younger than Bear. However, by the virtue of being an uncle to Little Lion, Bear must address him as Uncle Dodi or Om Dodi. Great! That made Bear felt younger whenever he’s around since Bear got to call him “Om!” (“Uncle!”).
We got back to the house and Bear thought that he could go for the second attempt. Well, it didn’t happen as well since at that time Papa Lion wanted to join some neighbours playing Domino at the porch. So, Bear took a sit and watched them played. After a while, Papa Lion disappeared into the house. Bear finally felt sleepy and went to the kitchen to get a glass of water. There, Bear saw Papa Lion preparing coffee for his guests. Bear was amazed and sms-ed Little Lion who was still in Jakarta. Little Lion told Bear that was a normal thing that Papa Lion does.
Bear said good night to Papa Lion and sms-ed Little Lion about the failed attempts and decided to make the next attempt together with Little Lion. The noise made by those people playing domino at the porch became softer and softer and Bear crossed over to the never-never land…
Part 1 – The Trip To Dumai
Part 3 – A Long Morning
Note: This is the English version of Little Lion’s entry BBD in Dumai. This is not a direct translation but this is for those who have difficulties reading the Bahasa Indonesia version. 
February 17, 2006. At night. Not an ordinary night. Little Lion and Berry Bear were having some intense moments over the Yahoo Messenger. Words went back and forth. Heads cracking. Hearts pumping. Time was moving on. Finally, a decision was made. Bear would go to Dumai to meet up with Little Lion’s parents. Yet another crazy move by the Berry Bear!
February 18, 2006. Bear drove all the way to Melaka. Bear was not that familiar with Melaka and had no idea where the ferry terminal to Dumai was. After a few stops, asking a few people, Bear eventually found the jetty. His first reaction was: “What a horrid place!” If KL has the magnificent KLIA, Bear was expecting the Melaka Jetty would not be too far away in terms of standard. The complex looked just like a godown. What a shame!
Anyway, Bear had no idea how that whole ferry thingy system works. He parked the Bearmobile and walked to the first stall that had the “Melaka-Dumai” words written. Bear simply had taken a risk to go there at that hour but Bear was blessed as the person behind the counter informed him that there was a ferry leaving for Dumai at 3:00pm. At the same time, the person was kind enough to patiently explain to Bear about the ferry service. Now Bear is an expert on ferry service to Dumai from Melaka… kind of…
The next task was to find a good parking space since Bear would have to leave the Bearmobile there for a few days. The first parking spot looked a bit dodgy so Bear drove the Bearmobile out and found an empty spot along some rows of shops. However, there was a person loitering there, glancing at the Bearmobile. Bear walked away for only about 100 meters and then decided to look for a new parking spot. Bear would not simply leave everything to chance! Finally, Bear found a spot in front of a marine police station. That should be safe enough.
The ferry that took Bear to Dumai
By 2:30 pm Bear got on the ferry after waiting under a shade provided by the godown look alike jetty in the middle of a steaming hot afternoon since 2:00 pm. The ferry was supposed to sail at 3:00 pm. That was what the person behind the counter said and that was what printed on the ticket. Nevertheless, the ferry stood still until 4:00 pm. Bear hated that seemingly never ending wait but then all the hatred went away when Bear thought of his Little Lion.
They served a little container of cold fried noodle and a cup of packed mineral water on the ferry. Bear was not hungry but then Bear did not like to waste food so the noodle was gobbled and washed down the throat with the mineral water. The rest of the 2 hour plus journey was nothing but some faded memories to Bear since he was totally engaged with dozing off to the the slight sway of the ferry cutting through the calm water of the Strait of Malacca.
5:00+ pm local time, Bear set foot for the first time on the land of Dumai. Dumai is where Little Lion was born and it was a proud moment for Bear to be there on that historical day. Shortly after Bear went passed the immigration check point, his phone rang. Papa Lion was on the other end…
Part 2 – An Evening In Dubai
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2. Midodaren
Pengajian
Pamitan
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3. Ijab Kabul (Akad nikah)
4. Temu Manten
5. Syukuran/Resepsi
qeqeqe hebohkan… eheheh buat sekedar pengetahuan gak masalah kan… tetep aje… buat kita berdua point paling penting tuh ijab Kabul-nya… yg listed diatas… uhmm liat budget dulu kali yee… klo ada dan bisa hayuuh.. klo gak ya gpp… makanya tetep lhoo kita terbuka banget… klo Omm and tante mo sponsorin kite.. pasti diterima 100% qqiqiqi (*tetep usaha!!!).. 
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Pengantin Surabaya Lasim
Dinamakan pengantin pegon merupakan tradisi hingga saat ini yang masih hidup dibeberapa kampung di surabaya.
TAHAP KENALAN
Merupakan kegiatan dimana keluarga calon pengantin pria berkunjung ke keluarga calon pengantin putri untuk saling berkenalan dan sekaligus menanyakan apakah si anak perempuan sudah ada yang mengikat atau belum. Biasanya kedatangan keluarga laki-laki dengan membawa buah tangan berupa makanan kue-kue tradisional. selanjutnya pembicaraan mengenai hari dan tanggal pernikahan.
TAHAP MIDODARENI
(*sehari sebelum ijab kabul)
Merupakan kegiatan dimana pada hari tersebut adalah hari terakhir bagi mempelai wanita seorang bidadari dan diyakini pada masa akhir tersebut turunlah 1001 (seribu satu) Bidadari mendampingi calon mempelai. Pada saat Midodareni ini keluarga calaon pengantin putri dilaksanakan:
1. Siraman: Yaitu upacara yang menggambarkan saat terakhir calon mempelai menjadi tanggung jawab orang tua yang di tandai dengan memandikannya kembang setaman oleh orang tua mempelai dan sesepuh. *Note: siraman CPW, gunting rambut dll trus penyerahan air siraman dr CPW ke lokasi siraman CPP, dilanjutkan acara dodol dawet o/ortu CPW di rumah CPW… siraman CPP di rumah CPP, gunting rambut trus guntingan rambut CPP dibawa ke rumah CPW dijadiin satu kmd ditaman di halaman rumah CPW.
2. Jualan (dodol,jawa) dawet oleh calon orang tua calon pengantin
TAHAP LAMARAN
Merupakan pembicaraan antar keluarga, dengan melibatkan calon mempelai wanita dimana maksud kedatangannya untuk meminta putri keluarga wanita akan di jodohkan dengan anaknya. setelah pihak perempuan menerimanya maka dilanjutkan dengan acara serah peningset (biasanya berupa: Kain panjang,kebaya, selop,perlengkapan pakaian,1 stel baju, tas, kosmetik, perhiasan, kue dan buah-buahan). *Note: Biasanya malam hari jam 7an, CPP dtg ke rumah CPW sambil membawa seserahan, waktu acara midodareni CPW ga boleh ketemu dgn CPP dan CPP hanya boleh minum air putih (ga boleh makan di rumah CPW).
TAHAP IJAB KABUL/ AKAD NIKAH
Merupakan tahap peresmian sebagai suami istri secara sah baik menurut agama maupun pemerintah (menurut adat surabaya waktu akad nikah kedua mempelai tidak dipertemukan).
TAHAP TEMU PENGANTEN
Merupakan Upacara dipertemukannya kedua mempelai diawali dengan arak-arakan prosesi kedatangan pengantin pria dengan cucuk lampah pembawa tombak, pembawa ayam jago,(loro pangkon) kembar mayang, pengantin pria diapit oleh sesepuh putri domas,kedua saudara dan orang tua serta iringan musik tembang jidor, sedangkan mempelai putri diawali dengan cucuk lampah yang membawa beras kuning dalam bokor kencana, pembawa kembar mayang , pengantin putri yang diapit kedua orang tua, serta pembawa ancak, bubakan, bubak kawah apabila pengantin putri merupakan anak putri pertama, sebelum mempelai bertemu pembawa loro pangkon dan beras kuning saling bersilat lidah tentang ilmu kejawen dan tasawuf islam dan dilanjutkan dengan adu pencak silat yang di akhiri dengan kekalahan pihak laki-laki. Ketika mereka sudah berjarak sekitar 2 (dua) meter, mereka saling melempar dengan daun sirih yang dilipat dan diikat dengan benang, yang siapa saja melempar lebih kena ke tubuh diartikan bahwa dalam hidup perkawinannya akan menang selalu.
Injak telur…
Lalu yang laki-laki mendekati si wanita yang berdiri di sisi sebuah baskom isi air bercampur bunga. Di depan baskom di lantai terletak telur ayam, yang harus diinjak si laki-laki sampai pecah, dan setelah itu kakinya dibasuh dengan air bunga oleh si wanita sambil berjongkok. Kemudian mereka berjajar, segera
Ibu si wanita menyelimutkan slindur/selendang yang dibawanya ke pundak kedua pengantin sambil berucap: Anakku siji saiki dadi loro (anakku satu sekarang menjadi dua).
Timbangan…
Selanjutnya mereka dituntun ke krobongan, dimana ayah dari pengantin perempuan menanti sambil duduk bersila, duduk di pangkuan sang ayah sambil ditanya isterinya: Abot endi Pak ? (berat mana Pak ?), yang dijawab sang suami: Pada dene (sama saja).
Kacar-kucur..
Selesai tanya jawab, mereka berdiri, si laki-laki duduk sebelah kanan dan si perempuan sebelah kiri, dimana si dukun pengantin membawa masuk sehelai tikar kecil berisi harta (emas, intan, berlian) dan uang pemberian pengantin laki-laki yang dituangkan ke tangan pengantin perempuan yang telah memegang saputangan terbuka, dan disaksikan oleh para tamu secara terbuka.
Suap suapan…
Perlambang kerukunan di dalam hidup, dilakukan suap-menyuap makanan antara pengantin. Bersamaan dengan ini, makanan untuk tamu diedarkan (sekarang dengan cara prasmanan) berurutan satu persatu oleh pelayan.
Ngabekten
(melakukan sembah) kepada orang tua pengantin perempuan dan tilik nganten (kehadiran orang tua laki-laki ke rumah/gedung setelah acara temu selesai yang langsung duduk dikrobongan dan disembah kedua pengantin)…
Selesai prosesi temu pengantin di lanjutkan ramah tamah dan hiburan.
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klo mo detail lengkapnya … boleh buka link2 berikut ini…
http://www.jawapalace.org/tradisijawa.html
http://arc.itb.ac.id/~ade/home/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=13&Itemid=1
http://www.kebudayaan.depdiknas.go.id/BudayaOnline/SeniBudaya/Nitra/SUBANGSA/Busana/n_jawa_timur2.htm
http://pg.photos.yahoo.com/ph/dodi_venus/detail?.dir=8f23&.dnm=92f3.jpg&.src=ph
http://www.petra.ac.id/eastjava/culture/prosesi.htm
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